I Want a Divorce!
Divorce Lawyers are reporting that they have been receiving an increased number of calls enquiring about divorce since the outbreak of Coronavirus. Couples are facing a very challenging time not just because they are in isolation but a great number of people who are self-employed are facing financial ruin and losing their businesses.
During this surreal and challenging period, so many couples are now discovering things about their partners they can no longer cope with or live with. Being in isolation due to Coronavirus (Covid-19) has made 2020 a very challenging year so far and a lot of couples are really struggling and feeling like they want a divorce!
If both partners are working from home and with the kids off school, tensions are high, it is inevitable couples will feel the pressure of being on lockdown and spending more time together. They will be discovering things about each other they were prepared to ignore that they can no longer ignore and find more and more irritating. They then find they are asking themselves ‘Do I want a divorce?’
As the imposed self-isolation was thrust upon us so suddenly a lot of couples weren’t really prepared for it, so all the tension and frustration this brings to relationships and family life has been a bit of a shock to many.
The frustrations are related to the fact that we are being forced to live and work in, sometimes confined spaces with little opportunity to work without distraction and having unrealistic expectations placed upon us by our partners and in some cases, the children.
We have had little time to prepare for this situation and we are all in the same boat, but it will affect us all differently especially if we have been directly affected by this pandemic.
What is important, is to stay positive and ensure that you create a plan that works for both partners and if any children are involved that they are accounted for in the planning so that everyone is clear about what is going on. Having routines is even more important at a time like this so that you have a reason to get up in the morning. Including a good amount of water and some exercise into the morning routine will help the whole family. Effective planning and being prepared for our day will assist us to create a nice atmosphere for each other and therefore creating a better environment during this challenging time.
Setting clear boundaries around work schedules and allowing each other time to relax and unwind is also extremely important as we need to be the best version of ourselves in order to get through this tricky situation.
‘I want a divorce’ has suddenly become one of the most searched terms on Google which means a lot of people are being affected by the virus outbreak and being on lockdown. Divorce is a serious and final decision and for many couples there are better solutions and strategies that will help them get through and find happiness in their relationship again.
Communication is more important than ever when we are forced to spend so much time together. Making time for effective communication will make a difference to our relationships. Being really focused and listening to each other will help us to understand our partners and find ways to be resourceful with the time we have together.
If you are struggling with your relationship right now, please do get in touch. We may not be able to meet in person but I am only a phone call or an email away!
ting and being in a volatile, hostile or loveless relationship. Therefore, it isn’t necessary to have both parties present.
If it is a family relationship that has broken down, Relationship Coaching can assist with getting those relationships back on track too. You will be able to attend those family events and feel so different.
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