It’s not my fault!

Feb 18, 2020 | 2 comments

It’s not my fault is a phrase I often hear with Relationship Coaching. So, whose fault is it? If we are constantly blaming someone else for what is happening in our lives and relationships we are looking to make them wrong, make it all their fault.  Who likes to be wrong? Nobody ever stood up and said ‘Yes, I love to be wrong!’ What we really need to do is look at ourselves. How are we handling things? It’s not easy to dig deep and look inside ourselves for answers and solutions but believe me it is absolutely the best place to start. Once you realise you can’t solve the problems when you are trying to control everyone else around you you will feel less stressed.  It’s the difference between being unaware and then becoming aware. When I first started practising this with everyone around me including my husband, it was quite enlightening. I was behaving in a way that just wasn’t helping anyone and once I realised it was all inside me and I had control over that, my life changed for the better. If you feel like everyone else around you is to blame for the problems between you then I’m here to help.   Just comment below and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can!   Anne Skelton

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  1. Kay

    It doesn’t have to be anyone’s fault… In lockdown with Covid-19, it’s a difficult situation and people react in different ways, and that can be something that others haven’t seen before – you might not even react how you thought you would yourself! Now we are settling down to a “new normal”, and there is talk of easing lockdown, people again are under stress. What will happen next? How will they cope? Are they still at risk? As one of the proposed titles for the draft of Charles Dickens’ novel “Little Dorrit”, it’s “Nobody’s Fault”.

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    • Anne Skelton

      This is so true and you are right that with Covid-19 we all have added pressures with all areas of life including our relationships.

      Couples have been out under a lot of pressure this year with working from home, being furloughed, redundancy, home education etc etc. Any relationship issues of marriage problems that existed beforehand have been highlighted.

      This is reflected in the increase for divorce requests this year!

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